Relationship addiction is otherwise known as love addiction. The same behaviour that we see in substance abuse addicts or alcoholics is evident in the behaviour of love addicts.
These behaviours are focused on obtaining the hearts desire – not necessarily love and affection but the emotional high that is obtained in the early stages of a romance, and are totally compulsive in nature. We see a continual preoccupation and obsession with the fantasy of a new relationship. Control over usually restrained behaviours begins to slip away and as a result negative consequences begin to emerge.
Much like other addictions the obsession engages the love addict for much longer and more intensely that meant to. Cutting down on the obsessive behaviour is not possible and the behaviours take up a lot of time and at the cost of home and work. Love addicts continue to engage in their behaviours despite the problems that it causes in relationships with others and takes the place of engaging with other important work, social or recreational activities. It can even lead to the love addict being put in danger and lead to physical and mental problems such as depression or anxiety. The high of engaging in a romantic fantasy or relationship becomes ever more difficult to reach (tolerance). Even feelings of cravings or withdrawals can become apparent when not engaging in the problem behaviours.
Whilst the rush of new love and emotional and physical attachment is a healthy and normal facet of human behaviour – when it is repeatedly sought after to achieve the ‘high’ or to avoid emotional discomfort it can become a serious problem.
So what does this behaviour look like?
Adam is not able to sustain an intimate relationship. He fixates on one particular person and obsessively attempts to engage in a relationship with that person. He uses multiple methods to achieve his goal, choosing his work place and social activities to ensure contact. He obsessively abuses social media in order to track the person’s family and social life. He has twice been caught hacking into other peoples social media accounts and has an outstanding restraint court order for invading privacy. He engages in fantasy about the potential relationship and becomes highly anxious and depressed when he does not make headway. No sooner than he obtains some sort of response from the person involved – whether positive or negative he quickly switches his attention elsewhere. And so the cycle continues.
Carla is an attractive woman and finds it easy to enter into relationships. She flings herself into the partnership mistaking the intensity and intimacy of a new sexual relationship for long lasting love and starts planning her future accordingly. Her every moment is filled with obsessive and controlling thoughts and feelings about her new partner. Her sense of self and self worth quickly becomes tied up with the other person. She gives up all her other activities, friends and social life to focus on ‘the one’. More often than not the new partner quickly draws away fearing the intensity of Carla’s behaviour leaving Carla devastated as yet another relationship fails. On the rebound she places herself in dangerous situations just to be able to hook up with someone new. Her friends make her promise to stay single for a while but she can never stick to her good intentions.
Like all addictions it is usually easy to identify the vulnerability of the addict towards these behaviours. Inadequate attachment and nurturing as a child, poor sense of self and low self esteem, poor role models, trauma and societal conditioning all contribute towards an unconscious drive to seek out the love ‘high’.
If you or a loved one find themselves caught up in a pattern of addictive behaviour in love and sex relationships help is at hand.
If you or a loved one are struggling with addiction please contact email@example.com or phone +27(21) 7617348.
Methamphetamine is a man made central nervous system stimulant.
Dependency on Methamphetamine (commonly known as ‘tik”) develops as a result of the impact of regular use of Meth on the brain. The Meth passes through your body to the brain where it causes the neurons to transmit unusually large amounts of the natural neurotransmitters (norepinephrine and dopamine), which then prevents the normal re-uptake of these brain chemicals. The release of this neurotransmitters results in a short lived powerful euphoric effect and increase in energy and feeling of invulnerability.
Meth is highly addictive and can quickly move from occasional use to compulsive use. Two of the indications of dependency are tolerance and withdrawal.
Tolerance is the increase need for more Meth in order to achieve the same high and is due to the change in brain chemistry.
Withdrawal is the presence of physiological symptoms as a result of not using Meth. These symptoms make it very difficult to stop the use of Meth. They include:
- Anhedonia (inability to feel pleasure)
- Lack of energy
- Teeth grinding
- Mood swings
Other symptoms of Meth dependency include:
- Loss of appetite and weight loss
- Severe tooth decay
- Respiratory problems
- Permanent heart, liver, kidney, lung damage
- Brain damage including inability to give attention, make good judgements, problem solve, poor memory, movement issues, poor impulse control and loss of contact with reality
- Panic and psychosis
- Bizarre or erratic behaviour
- Criminal and violent behaviour
Recovery from Meth addiction is possible with the required help. Firstly detox needs to take place. A place of safety and medical assistance can ease the challenging withdrawal symptoms. Within a few days sleep and eating patterns can return to normal.
Adherence to a 12 Step recovery programme can provide the daily support and changes necessary to support abstinence.
If you or a family member are struggling with addiction please contact firstname.lastname@example.org or phone +27217627348.
Schizoaffective disorder describes a condition that includes aspects of both schizophrenia and a mood disorder (either major depressive disorder or bipolar disorder).
Scientists are not entirely certain whether schizoaffective disorder is a condition related mainly to schizophrenia or a mood disorder. However, it is usually viewed and treated as a hybrid or combination of both conditions.
Schizoaffective disorder can be managed, but most people diagnosed with the condition have relapses.
A few definitions:
Schizophrenia is a brain disorder that distorts the way a person thinks, acts, expresses emotions, perceives reality, and relates to others.
Depression is an illness that is marked by feelings of sadness, worthlessness, or hopelessness, as well as problems concentrating and remembering details.
Bipolar disorder includes cycling mood changes, such as severe highs (mania) and lows (depression).
The symptoms of schizoaffective disorder may vary greatly from one person to the next and may be mild or severe. They may include:
- Poor appetite
- Weight loss or gain
- Changes in sleeping patterns (sleeping very little or a lot)
- Agitation (being very restless)
- Lack of energy
- Loss of interest in usual activities
- Feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness
- Guilt or self-blame
- Trouble with thinking or concentration
- Thoughts of death or suicide
- Being more active than usual, including at work, in your social life, or sexually
- Talking more or faster
- Rapid or racing thoughts
- Little need for sleep
- Being full of yourself
- Being easily distracted
- Self-destructive or dangerous behavior (such as going on spending sprees, driving recklessly, or having risky sex)
- Delusions (strange beliefs that the person refuses to give up, even when they get the facts)
- Hallucinations (sensing things that aren’t real, such as hearing voices)
- Disorganized thinking
- Odd or unusual behavior
- Slow movements or not moving at all
- Lack of emotion in facial expression and speech
- Poor motivation
- Problems with speech and communication
Scientists don’t know the exact cause of schizoaffective disorder. Things that may be involved include:
Genetics (heredity): Someone may inherit a tendency to develop schizoaffective disorder from their parents.
Brain structure and function: People with schizophrenia and mood disorders may have problems with brain circuits that manage mood and thinking.
Environment: Environmental things — such as a viral infection, bad relationships, or highly stressful situations — may trigger schizoaffective disorder in people who are at risk for it. How that happens isn’t clear.
Schizoaffective disorder usually begins in the late teen years or early adulthood, often between ages 16 and 30. It seems to happen slightly more often in women than in men. It’s rare in children.
Because people with schizoaffective disorder have a combination of symptoms reflecting two separate mental illnesses, it is easily confused with other psychotic or mood disorders. Some people may be believed to have schizophrenia, and others may be believed to have just a mood disorder. As a result, it’s hard to determine exactly how many people actually have schizoaffective disorder. It’s probably less common than either schizophrenia or mood disorders alone.
There are no laboratory tests to specifically diagnose schizoaffective disorder. So doctors rely on a person’s medical history — and may use various tests such as brain imaging (like MRI scans) and blood tests — to make sure that a physical illness isn’t the reason for the symptoms.
If the doctor finds no physical cause, he may refer the person to a psychiatrist or psychologist. These mental health professionals are trained to diagnose and treat mental illnesses. They use specially designed interview and assessment tools to evaluate a person for a psychotic disorder.
In order to diagnose someone with schizoaffective disorder, the person must have periods of uninterrupted illness and, at some point, an episode of mania, major depression, or a mix of both, while also having symptoms of schizophrenia. The person must also have had a period of at least two weeks of psychotic symptoms without the mood (depression or bipolar) symptoms.
Treatment for schizoaffective disorder includes:
Medication : Some of the medicine a person needs depends on whether they have symptoms of depression or bipolar disorder, along with symptoms that suggest schizophrenia. The main medications that doctors prescribe for psychotic symptoms such as delusions, hallucinations, and disordered thinking are called antipsychotics. Many antipsychotic drugs have value in the treatment of schizoaffective disorder. For mood-related symptoms, someone may take an antidepressant medication or a mood stabilizer such as lithium. They often will also take an antipsychotic medication.
Psychotherapy : The goal of this type of counseling is to help the person learn about their illness, set goals, and manage everyday problems related to the disorder. Family therapy can help families become more effective in relating to and helping a loved one who has schizoaffective disorder.
Skills training: This generally focuses on work and social skills, grooming and self-care, and other day-to-day activities, including money and home management.
Hospitalization: Psychotic episodes may require a person to be hospitalized, especially if he/she is suicidal or threatens to hurt others.
Can You Prevent Schizoaffective Disorder?
No. But if someone gets diagnosed and starts treatment ASAP, it can help a person avoid or reduce frequent relapses and hospitalizations and help decrease the disruption to the person’s life, family, and friendships.
Cannabis and Work
With the Constitutional Court judgment on 18th September 2018 effectively legalizing cannabis, some questions can be asked around Labour Law.
Jan du Toit, a Senior Consultant with SA Labour Guide asks the question, “Does the fact that one will have the right to private consumption of cannabis imply that employers will have to amend their policies and disciplinary codes?”
Cannabis is a psychoactive drug derived from the Cannabis plant. The main psychoactive part of the plant is tetrahydrocannobinol (THC). Cannabis can be used by smoking, vaporizing with a ‘bong’, within food or as an oil extract. Cannabis is a depressant drug, which means it slows down messages travelling between your brain and body.
The physical effects of cannabis is an altered state of consciousness – a general change in perception of time and space, heightened mood (euphoric and sociable), increased sensitivity to taste, sight, smell and hearing, impaired coordination and concentration, decrease in short term memory, decreased motivation, increased pulse and heart rate, dilated and blood shot eyes and at times negative experiences like paranoia and anxiety.
Long-term effects of cannabis use are widely debated but include dependency, damage to heart and lungs, the reproductive system, and adolescent brain development. There is evidence of a link between schizophrenia and cannabis use.
Cannabis oil is used to combat a wide variety of different illnesses such as effects of cancer treatment, pain relief and epilepsy.
Cannabis can be detected in urine for a few days (occasional user) or longer than a month (chronic user). This means that a joint smoked on a Saturday night at a party may be detectable in the urine on a Monday morning – despite the effects of the cannabis having probably worn off.
So will it be permissible for employees to have cannabis in their system when they present for work?
The General Safety Regulation 2A of the Occupational Health and Safety Act, requires that an employer may not allow any person who is or who appears to be under the influence of an intoxicating substance, to be allowed access to the workplace. Neither may an employer allow any person to have intoxicating substances in his or her possession in the workplace.
Jan du Toit suggests that this means that the legislation of private cannabis use is probably not a defence for a positive urine test of cannabis at work.
How to talk to your teenager about drugs
What happened to your 13 year old who hated smoking and gave you a look if you had a second glass of wine? People who took drugs were ‘stupid and they were never going to be that foolish’.
Two years later you find cigarettes in your child’s school bag, or pick them up from a party drunk or perhaps even find drug paraphernalia in their cupboard.
Here are some tips on how to talk to your teenager about drugs.
- Firstly, it should be your pre-teen that you are talking too. Start talking about drugs and alcohol abuse early – from age eight whenever the subject comes on – on TV for example.
- Ask your child what they know about drugs and alcohol abuse. Include cigarettes/vaping and cannabis in your discussion.
- Tell them what you feel about drug and alcohol abuse and about how concerned you would be if they ever participated in this behaviour.
- Don’t just talk about the harm of drug and alcohol abuse, talk about the positive aspects and why people do drugs and drink – to feel good, to escape, to avoid feelings or a situation.
- Focus on the short term problems that come from drugs and alcohol rather than the long term. Talk about bad breath and skin problems, difficulties with sports and academics.
- Explain that some people cannot stop once they have started and one never knows who that is going to be.
- Also that teenage brains are wired to take risks and experiment – let them know that one day they will be faced with making the decision of whether to use or not.
- Set up some ‘family rules’ about drug and alcohol use – allow your child to participate – include random drug testing in the agreement.
- Set up a safety net in case your child is in a risky situation and wants to get out – no questions asked.
- Keep on talking about it and make it safe for your children to tell you about the drug and alcohol use that they see or hear is going on around them.
If you find that they are already using:
- Don’t respond in anger. Be compassionate and understanding but firm.
- Direct them to the family rules that were made together.
- Put consequences in place that will keep them safe.
- Drug test them regularly.
- Speak to the school. Don’t hide the problem.
- Get some help – take your child to an addiction therapist.
Don’t ever let your child sleep over at a friend after a party or get together unless you are very sure that there will be adequate supervision.
Prescription drug abuse
With the legalization of cannabis on the increase it is now prescription drugs rather than tik, cocaine or heroin that is most used illicitly.
Most people take medicines only in the manner in which their doctors prescribe them. However a significant amount of people are predisposed to become addicted when they start to abuse prescription drugs after a legitimate prescription was written for them by their doctor. The prescription may have been written due to chronic pain, injury, surgery or depression.
Pain killers, sleeping tablets and anti-anxiety medications are all highly addictive and easily available on prescription.
Morphine, heroin, codeine and methadone – all opiates – are now considered among the most highly abused and addictive drugs available in the world.
The use of tablets to obtain peaceful detachment from worries, pain and demands of life can begin slowly but can then quickly escalate as the brain adjusts to the drugs requiring more and more to get the same effect. This is called tolerance.
Stopping the medication is no easy feat due to the uncomfortable and sometimes dangerous withdrawal symptoms. Symptoms such as feelings of irritability, anxiety and agitation, restlessness and insomnia, hot and cold sweats and goose bumps, muscle ache and pains, abdominal cramping, nausea, vomiting and diarrhoea.
Drug-seeking behaviours are the primary warning signs of prescription drug abuse, regardless of the chemical make up of the medication. These behaviours include:
- Frequent requests for refills from physicians
- Losing prescriptions and requesting replacements regularly
- Crushing or breaking pills
- Stealing or borrowing prescription medications from family members, friends, or co-workers
- Consuming prescriptions much faster than indicated
- Visiting multiple doctors for similar conditions
- Stealing or forging prescriptions
- Ordering prescription medications over the internet
Recovery from prescription medication addiction
Recovery from a prescription drug addiction is very difficult and it is for this reason that professional medical treatment is recommended to assist withdrawal, while professional therapeutic intervention and strong aftercare support gives the best chance of addiction recovery and long term rehabilitation success.